What can a former foster youth teach us about adoption and foster care? A lot! In fact, we believe that adult adoptees and former foster youth are the greatest teachers for foster and adoptive parents. In this interview, we learn a lot!
We are so excited to share our interview with former foster youth, and adoption and foster care advocate, Tori Petersen. She is amazing, and is actively changing the story of adoption and foster care in the United States. She spends her time advocating, on a national level, for better services for children in foster care. Make sure you check out her Instagram here. Listen to the interview....
Today we're kicking off Season 17 of the Honestly Adoption Podcast and we couldn't be more excited. We have so many amazing, talented, and wise guests lined up. You're going to be challenged and inspired!
Recently, Mike and Kristin sat down with Keia Jones-Baldwin from Raising Cultures to talk about raising a multiracial family, the ups and downs of parenting, her brand new podcast, and the ever so fun experience of dealing with internet trolls, and how to hit personal attacks online head on. You're going to love this interview. Keia is a rockstar and has a brilliant perspective. Listen to the interview now...
Coming February 20, 2020...we're kicking off a brand new season of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, but you get a sneak peak into what's to come.
One of the most important ways we can take better care of ourselves, maximize this new year, and maintain health as a parent, is through a strong connection to others. But how do you find this?
On the foster and adoptive parenting journey, we need fellow parents in our corner. There's no way we can maintain a healthy perspective, nor find the encouragement we need to keep moving forward without a strong support community around us. As we wrap up the podcast series, New Year, New You, the most important message we can leave you with, is the message of community. Listen to the episode now...
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Chaos. Utter and complete chaos. That describes most days on the foster and adoptive parenting journey. Heck, that describes most days for parents in general. The surefire way to overcome chaos and begin to move toward peace and consistency is through structure, and a consistent routine that you follow with your family. In today's episode, Mike discusses principles that can help you achieve this.
Finances. Wow! Sticky subject. Especially right after the Holidays. But it's a crucial topic and there are simply ways you can maximize your money, even if you have a small budget (which a lot of us on the foster and adoptive journey do). Our good friend Chad Johnson, from Blue Financial Coaching joins us to explain some simple methods to make our budget go a long way.
New Year, New You! Let's Talk Self Care
It's Part 4 of our Holiday How-To Guide, and in this episode we're giving you practical strategies for managing the (often) dreaded downtime during Christmas!
You know how this goes. It's the school year, and it it certainly has its own struggles. The constant on-the-go of Monday through Friday, and then sports, church, and get-togethers sprinkled in makes the grind a bit exhausting. But it's structured. It's routine. What do you do when that changes and you're suddenly in the middle of Christmas break, with little to no routine, and the meltdowns are starting to arise? On today's episode we're answering that very question.
Christmas is less than a week away and we're continuing our podcast series called The Holiday How-To Guide. Have you ever wondered how to successfully navigate those sometimes difficult extended family gatherings? In this episode we're giving you some practical strategies to do just that!
The Holiday season can bring up lots of memories, feelings of loss, or anxiety for our children. Those emotions can quickly lead to triggered behavior. But how do you recognize the triggers and respond to them appropriately?
We can mark our calendars every year. October 31st until January 2nd are going to be...interesting, to say the least. Lots of overstimulation, mixed with anxiety, mixed with big expectations, mixed with let down, and memories of loss. It's a massive cocktail stirring within our children. In our latest podcast episode we discuss strategies you can use to not only recognize the triggers before they go off, but respond in a way that brings healing and connection this holiday season. Listen to the episode now...
We've officially entered into the holiday season. That means Christmas parties, twinkling lights, frosty window panes, and potentially high emotions for some of our children. In this brand new podcast series, we're walking you through key how-to's when it comes to successfully navigating the holiday season.
Our children will always have two families. It's something we need to accept. And the holiday season can bring up feelings of deep loss and separation. As far as it depends on us, we must work to preserve the connection between our children and their first families, especially during this season. But how? In this episode, we explore some key steps to building healthy connections with first families.
It's November 1st. Halloween decorations are being replaced with turkey cut-outs and corn-a-capias on front doors. Soon, Christmas lights will dawn those same homes. It's officially the holiday season. But for foster and adoptive families, this can mean dysregulation city! How do you help your children stay calm and regulated during this season?
Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview. Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families. We think you will love her as much as we do!
We encourage you to listen in as well as follow her on Instagram @life_with_curlz
One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee's voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Tori DeMartile.
Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That's what we're discussing on our latest episode.
Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is...
We often don't consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here's why...
We know that some children with trauma histories can display extreme behaviors (aggression, belligerence, disrespect, or even violence). But what about the child who deals with major anxiety, stress, nervousness, or often seems physically out of control of his or her body? That's where emotional regulation is key.
In this special episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we are pleased to share with you, a sneak peak into our 12-month online coaching group with parents from all over the world.
Welcome back to Part 2 of our special podcast series "Answers." In this episode we discuss one of the questions we pose in our new book, Honestly Adoption, which is "Why Is It Important To Empower Our Children?"
Because our children have come from hard places, they often feel powerless to speak up for themselves, advocate for themselves, and even make decisions that affect their lives. The loss that lives within them often propels this. That's why it's critical that we empower our children. In this week's episode we once again take you behind the scenes of writing our latest book, but also answer the question, "Why is it important to empower our children?"
In just a couple of weeks, on August 6th, we will release our new book, Honestly Adoption: Answers To 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care. In this 3-part series called "Answers," we're taking you behind the scenes of how the book was written, and also answering some of the questions we ask in the book.
Fostering, adopting, or even simply parenting teenagers is no small task and it's certainly not for the faint of heart. It's challenging. But when you consider the reality of trauma histories, and how they determine present behavior, the question must be asked- "Is this a teenager being a teenager, or is there something else going on here?" That's the question we answer in this episode of the podcast.
We've all seen the signs with our children. Rubbing their eyes, irritable, erratic, frustrated, disobedient, you name it. They're tired. But often, we can mistake lack of sleep for bad behavior. It's not, but in our busy lives, it's easy to miss the signs...
In this latest episode of The Honestly Adoption podcast we walk through signs and symptoms of a lack of sleep. When we parent children with a trauma history, we have to remember that vigilance, and fear, and anxiety can cause them to not sleep. What do we do? How do we respond?
It's easy for parents who are caring for children with a trauma history to mistake triggered behavior for disobedience. But, when you understand the origin of behavior, your entire perspective changes.
We often confuse the need for sensory input for bad behaviors, or a child who just can't settle down. But for children who have a trauma history, and have lost control of that area of their life, there is a deep need for comfort and security that they do not know how to articulate. So, it comes out through behaviors. In today's episode we discuss strategies to help your child receive the sensory input he, or she, needs.