You set the guidelines, house rules, and boundaries only to turn around and find your child disregarding them. It can be maddening. But what if we told you that their disregard may not be a matter of "won't" but a matter of "can't."
Believe it or not, your child may not be doing this on purpose. We know...hard to believe! But there's a simple explanation. Children with a trauma history often lack the ability to do simple things like carry out a task they've been asked to do. Same with favors, or chores you've assigned to them. You may find yourself repeating yourself a zillion times before they comply.
What is really going on?
If you've spent more than a couple of days on this journey, you know rejection is par for the course. Regardless of how hard you try to connect, build trust, reach out, or meet needs, your child rejects you. It can be soul crushing, and just plain exhausting. You're left feeling like a failure.
But you aren't. In fact, there's way more going on with your child than meets the eye. We know that behavior is a window into past trauma. Rejection is a by-product of this.
It's one thing to make that statement. It's another thing entirely to provide avenues for people to do serve, and give, whether or not they are active foster parents. We are excited to share the good work that the Isaiah 117 House is doing to provide support, and necessary resources for children entering into the foster care system. Their work is providing dignity and comfort during a very hard, and highly traumatic process.
We were fortunate to be able to sit down with Indianapolis Marion County Expansion Coordinator, Sarah McDaniel, to talk about what the Isaiah 117 House is, how it started, and what their primary focus is.